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The French have a saying, Plus \u00e7a change, plus c\u2019est la m\u00eame chose<\/em>. It often seems apt, and is of course a variant of a Biblical principle (God usually nails it, right?) found in Ecclesiastes \u2013 \u201cThere is nothing new under the sun.\u201d<\/p>\n These sort of thoughts occur to many of us around New Years, or I might say, specifically after New Year\u2019s, when our resolutions wither and die. The French phrase translates to \u201cThe more things change, the more they stay the same.\u201d<\/p>\n This is not necessarily white-flag defeatism, but rather a reflection of human nature. And January received its name from the Roman god Janus, the two-faced god of endings and beginnings.<\/p>\n Many of us do not merely make (and break) resolutions around now. And we will not address that famous \u201croad to hell\u201d that is paved with good intentions, because pledges to improve, or reform, or lose weight, or clean the office, are fungible; and at least reflect proper impulses. We also, at this time of year, often grow nostalgic\u2026 remember friends\u2026 regret mistakes\u2026 miss family members\u2026 plan to renew old acquaintances. Also proper impulses.<\/p>\n Perhaps the fatal flaw with intentions and resolutions is that ol\u2019 human nature. It seems wiser to pray that the Holy Spirit equip us to be tender and resourceful and sympathetic, rather than relying on our own lists and computer calendars and strings around our fingers.<\/p>\n Implicit in New Year\u2019s resolutions is a whole lot of Self \u2013 we can discern; we can assign; we can choose; we can self-motivate; we can mark the dates and goals.<\/p>\n We can\u2026 but we often don\u2019t.<\/p>\n I am thinking of this week. Most people are happy (surveys say) with the course of the economy and \u201coptimistic about the future.\u201d Unemployment numbers are good \u2026 and so forth. How many people have a bounce in their step as the new year unfolds?<\/p>\n In my own little world, I am happy enough, and grateful to God for my blessings. But just in the past few days, I have learned, or been reminded, of friends and relatives with radically different prospects. A friend whose happily married daughter is\u2026 not so happily married. The sudden death, perhaps from meningitis, of 26-year-old commentator Bre Payton, a rising star. A friend whose daughter and grandkids went into hiding because of an abusive husband. A friend whose husband has been ill for months, in pain and not eating, wasting away. A friend whose daughter has been estranged for two years, rejecting outreach and severing relations with grandsons caught in the middle. A friend whose only child is mercurial to the point of heartbreak, variously cheerful and abusive. A friend who has just gone on Hospice.<\/p>\n Is everything seen, all of a sudden, as the \u201cglass half empty\u201d? (– or half-full? I never understood the proper term or distinction of that). No. Of all my friends above, with one exception where \u201cnegative confession\u201d is her reaction of choice, these people do count their blessings, and are mindful of silver linings. Another friend whose daughter impulsively got pregnant, got married, and got separated in mind-numbing and sad rapidity, nevertheless praises God for clarity and rededication\u2026 and so does her precious daughter. My friend on Hospice is in a situation that would make people cry, yet is full of life and enthusiasm that is inspiring.<\/p>\n We must always remember, or realize, that behind every storm cloud the sun still shines brightly. Storm clouds pass, but the sun shines always, after storms and after dark nights.<\/p>\n Our job as Christians, trying to live as Christians \u2013 and maybe to be, or to reflect, that sun to others \u2013 is, if I may put it this way, how to order the gloomy news and the hopeful news. Joy\u2026 BUT? or horrible news\u2026 BUT!<\/p>\n But there is hope; but there is redemption; but there is the bright day ahead.<\/p>\n So, here we go again, in January. Rather than relying on our own \u201cDo-Better\u201d lists, why don\u2019t we all make a New Years Resolution to let God order our ways, light our pathways, and inhabit our praise? <\/p>\n + + +<\/p>\n For all the friends with challenges and grief I listed here \u2013 and for each other \u2013 let us pray. Farther along, we\u2019ll know all about it\u2026<\/p>\n